Recently, I watched the Hallmark movie Navigating Christmas. Of course, there was the typical boy meets girl scenario. At first, they are at odds with one another, followed by falling in love, then they kiss and live happily ever after! I imagine you’ve all seen one (or fifty) of these. Oh, if only real life worked out that way.
Navigating Christmas centered around a beautiful old lighthouse reminded me of one of my favorites in Cape Neddick, Maine. “The Nubble” was built in 1879 and has helped guide many sailors to safety for over 100 years. As we approach the start of the Christmas season, I thought many of us may need help and support guiding us to safety, just like the sailors moving through New England.
Since my daughter died, I’ve needed a safe harbor more than ever before. Today, I find it by leaning into my faith, which has become my lighthouse. Although my strength comes from my personal relationship with Jesus, even those who are walking by faith, the grief journey can knock you completely off your feet.
As everyone is celebrating the most “wonderful time of the year,” if you’ve found yourself searching for a place of safety, take a moment to just breathe. I encourage you to begin navigating grief with belief. I recently listened to a great podcast by Levi Lesko, who ten years ago lost his 5-year-old daughter only 5 days before Christmas. These are a few things he shared that resonated with me:
- Be patient. Your heart will always be heavy, but you will get stronger in time. The heaviness is the same – you will evolve and get stronger!
- Stick together. Don’t try to go it alone. Walk through this challenging time with your small group or friends/loved ones who believe in you.
- Run towards the roar. Run towards what you want to run away from, even if it’s hard.
Of course, we don’t want to run toward the thing that hurts the most. Levi shared a story of the first Christmas without his daughter, Lenya. Considering she died 5 days before Christmas, a holiday which they previously loved, began to take a heavy and dark turn. He didn’t want to put up lights until he started thinking about his faith. Jesus is the symbol of light, and the holiday is meant to celebrate and commemorate His birth and death, which leads toward His resurrection. All for us.
Sometimes, we need to do hard things, and with God walking with us, we can do this.
I can’t believe it’s been 2 years today since my book, “Beautifully Broken: Finding Hope During Loss” launched. This book was hard to write, and I did so only in obedience to what the Lord directed me to do. Although it tells the complex parts of my story, it is also filled with hope and restoration, which only Jesus can bring. If you need some encouragement and hope today consider picking up a copy of Beautifully Broken here. It may give you just what you need to help navigate Christmas this year. Love, Pat